You know that midlife stereotype
The one that says women our age should be slowing down, fading into the background and accepting (and expecting) a gentle decline into decrepitude. That one that tries to dictate to us what we can and cannot do, what we should and shouldn't be saying, feeling, thinking…Argh, I say BS to all that!
And yet, it gets under the skin doesn’t it?
YOU WONDER IF IT’S TRUE. IF MAYBE IT IS TOO LATE. IF MAYBE YOU ARE TOO OLD.
And if that were true what would happen to your unfulfilled dreams and ambitions? You know the ones, the ones you’ve been daydreaming about for years, afraid to tell anyone about because you worry they will judge you or because part of you doesn’t really believe you can do it. But they’re still there aren’t they, deep inside you, burning quietly away.
And then there’s that feeling. The yearning for more meaning in your life. You can’t quite put your finger on it but it’s like something’s missing, a void, an emptiness, a nagging sense of dissatisfaction.
YOU JUST CAN’T GET AWAY FROM THE ENDLESS SPINNING THOUGHTS TELLING YOU TO ‘SORT YOUR LIFE OUT.’
But the self-doubt and the fear that creeps in whenever you start thinking about taking the first step to do something about any of this is so frigging paralysing isn’t it?!
With everything feeling so stuck and unfulfilling you reach for the wine, the chocolate, the Netflix box sets – because you’re scared that you might be trapped here forever.
if this is speaking to you then we need to talk!
There’s a different life waiting for you and I’d love to help you step into it!
I was terrified fifty was the beginning of the end
I get it. I can relate to where you are and where you want to be because four years ago as I approached my fiftieth birthday, I was secretly freaking the hell out.
I was the woman who stayed in a relationship that was over because she was afraid to leave, who was in a job that no longer fulfilled or inspired her and who felt like her life had no meaning or direction. And I’d been stuck there for years.
I was the woman who was trapped in a cycle of never making it to the gym or the yoga class because I just felt hopeless and told herself ‘what’s the point, I’ll never stick at it’. I was the woman who drank the wine, ate the junk, watched the mind-numbing tv and stayed stuck.
FEELING STUCK IN A RUT AND TERRIFIED YOU MIGHT BE TRAPPED HERE FOREVER
The worst thing about all of this was that I completely lost my confidence and self-belief. The passions and the dreams I once had seemed so far away and impossible. I didn’t feel like anyone would understand my sense of despair and loneliness. And so, I kept it all in, pushed it down, pretended to myself, my friends and family that everything was ok. When it was far from ok. I felt anxious, stressed and like there was a great big gaping hole in my life that I had no idea what to do about.
My wake-up call
Just before my fiftieth birthday I had a wake-up call that made me re-evaluate my life. My mental, emotional and physical health had been suffering for so long that something just broke. The anxiety attacks I’d had as a teenager returned. I knew something had to change and this was the catalyst to reach out and ask for help. I met my wonderful therapist and soon afterwards my own life coach (the wisest woman I know). The journey back to myself began.
Fast forward to today. After a lot of self-development, qualifying as a life coach and Reiki healer and some deep soul searching, I understand myself and my potential better than ever before.
“The coaching has massively improved my confidence and self-belief and I’ve got a plan which is helping me focus. I feel in a place where I’m back in the driving seat!” - BINA, LONDON
I rediscovered myself and understood what it is I am here to do - help other women connect with their passions and sense of purpose. To help them make the difference they’re here to make. Three years ago, I started my business and a year ago, I made the leap away from my corporate job to do what I love and what excites and inspires me every day.