You know that midlife stereotype?
The one that says women our age should be slowing down, fading into the background and accepting (and expecting) a gentle decline into decrepitude. That one that tries to dictate to us what we can and cannot do, what we should and shouldn't be saying, feeling, thinking…Argh, I say BS to all that!
And yet, it gets under the skin doesn’t it?
YOU WONDER IF IT’S TRUE. IF MAYBE IT IS TOO LATE. IF MAYBE YOU ARE TOO OLD.
And if that were true what would happen to your unfulfilled dreams and ambitions? You know the ones, the ones you’ve been daydreaming about for years, afraid to tell anyone about because you worry they will judge you or because part of you doesn’t really believe you can do it. But they’re still there aren’t they, deep inside you, burning quietly away.
And then there’s that feeling. The yearning for more meaning in your life. You can’t quite put your finger on it but it’s like something’s missing, a void, an emptiness, a nagging sense of dissatisfaction.
YOU JUST CAN’T GET AWAY FROM THE ENDLESS SPINNING THOUGHTS TELLING YOU TO ‘SORT YOUR LIFE OUT.’
But the self-doubt and the fear that creeps in whenever you start thinking about taking the first step to do something about any of this is so frigging paralysing isn’t it?!
With everything feeling so stuck and unfulfilling you reach for the wine, the chocolate, the Netflix box sets – because you’re scared that you might be trapped here forever.
IF THIS IS SPEAKING TO YOU THEN WE NEED TO TALK!
Because it doesn’t have to be this way. There’s a different life waiting for you and I’d love to help you step into it!
I was terrified that fifty represented the beginning of the end.
I understand your struggles. I can relate to where you are and where you want to be. Because five years ago I was approaching my fiftieth birthday and I was secretly freaking the hell out!
On the surface my life ticked all the boxes but underneath the facade I was struggling with an increasing sense of despair and stuckness. I was in a relationship that wasn’t going anywhere, a job that was no longer inspiring me and living a life that just wasn’t fulfilling anymore. I had been in that place for months, probably years.
I felt lost. I didn’t know who I was, what I wanted or where I was going anymore.
FEELING STUCK IN A RUT AND TERRIFIED YOU MIGHT BE TRAPPED HERE FOREVER?
What if my fears are true? What if this is all there is for me? I was constantly questioning and judging myself. “You’re wasting your life away”, “Why can’t you just be happy or make a decision, get on and do something about it!”
The worst thing about all of this was that I was gradually losing my confidence and self-belief, staying small, keeping quiet and dimming my light. I’d lost sight of who I was, all I could be, my passions and the dreams I once had.
And it all became so familiar I believed it was me.
Thank goodness I was wrong!
Back then I couldn’t see a way out. And yet I’ve changed my life completely. I dug deep and understood myself better than ever before. I tapped into what I really wanted, found my mission, my purpose, my calling, whatever you want to call it. And I reinvented my life.
I’ve realised that I am more capable, creative, passionate and purposeful than I ever dared think possible! (don’t get me wrong I’m still a work in progress and learning all the time.) The difference is that now I feel like I am doing something way more meaningful, aligned to who I am, why I’m here and I have my inner fire to keep me company!
I really hope you’re ready to break free from the limitations that are holding you back. I’d love to help you shine and thrive in your next chapter!