Are you a good ally?

Of course I am! I’ve got gay friends. I accept everyone regardless of who they are and who they love and I love PRIDE, I’ve even been to a gay wedding.

I'm afraid this doesn't make you an Ally. It’s not all rainbows, glitter and unicorns!

A great ally lifts up LGBTQ voices. They stand for LGBTQ equality and are prepared to have (uncomfortable) conversations with those who are biased or prejudiced.

A great ally understands that discrimination exists in the workplace and that “little jokes and jibes” relating to sexual orientation and gender do cause harm and they will do more than just passively ‘not join in’ they will challenge it if they see this happening.

A great ally will learn more themselves about the LGBTQ community and take a look at their own assumptions (surely it’s all ok now you’ve got equal marriage?) prejudice or bias.

And the allies I love the best are the ones who check in with me. Who ask me how I’m doing. Who recognise that living with different discrimination and prejudice is sometimes challenging and listen to me with an open mind and most importantly an open heart.

Being an ally is about taking action. It's about speaking up for LGBTQ equality and helping to change the hearts and minds of people around us. This isn’t always easy to do. It can be uncomfortable to challenge other peoples opinions or points of view. However it's so needed. We can't change attitudes and misperceptions without the support and help of everybody.

We are all part of the solution.

Stonewall has some great info here for all you wonderful allies.

 https://www.stonewall.org.uk/comeoutforLGBT/ally

One love x

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